If someone asks if you’re a narc and you actually are a narc, you have to say it. That’s the rule. Like if someone directly asks you, you’re not allowed to lie about it. Same with if you’re a Republican. All the Republicans say they’re centrists now. You have to say Republican. You have to say if you’re a vegan. You have to say if you’re into sports. You’re allowed to lie about your weird kink, but only to people you’re not trying to sleep with. You can’t lie about your credit score. You can’t lie about whether you like to stay in or go to bars. You can’t just pretend you’re a neat person who likes to cook. You have to admit if you pick your nose (but you don’t have to admit if you eat it). You can’t lie about your favorite color, even if your favorite color sucks. If you get married you’re allowed to lie about the til-death-do-us-part thing, that’s expected. But you have to admit if you hate your job and you might go back to grad school. You have to say if you don’t like kids, but if you end up having kids anyway you’re allowed to lie and say you changed your mind. You can’t lie about whether you’ve stopped taking your meds. If you’re secret drinking, you’re allowed to deflect but if you’re confronted you have to admit it. You can’t lie about whether you’re still in love. If someone really asks, you have to say yes or no. You can’t lie about whether you’re happy. That’s the rule. You have to have some rules, or else how is anyone going to get anywhere.